In my junior year of college, I had a nice haircut which was expressly complimented by a classmate. This was extraordinary for me, because my hair is anything but nice - dry, wavy, flyaway, unkempt, and basically always disheveled. Very soon after this, my hair started falling a lot. It seemed that they were falling out about 10 times the normal hairfall amount, and I even started counting the hairs that fell daily. After consultation with mom, we came to the conclusion that I was hit by 'nazar' or the 'evil eye' of the girl who had praised my hair with envy. Of course, she wouldn't have intended it, but somehow it had a negative effect on me.
The nazar, literally meaning 'vision', invokes dread and fear amongst people in most nations of the Middle east and South Asia; but outside this sphere, this concept is almost unknown. It is believed that nazar is invoked when someone stares at you with envy - at your beauty, wealth, possession or any form of good fortune. Even though it emphasizes 'sight', nazar is often a result of spoken words, and hence sometimes the speaker is believed to have a 'black tongue' as well. This does not mean that the person causing nazar is an evil witch, or a black magic woman, or even someone with bad intentions. In most cases, the inflictor is unaware of the possible negative effects of their words, is usually without any malice and may mean no harm whatsoever, even though there might be an element of envy.
Babies and brides are thought to be the most susceptible victims to nazar. In old times, it was even believed to be the main cause for infant deaths. To prevent this, a black mark would be applied to the face of the babies or under their eyes, to make them look ugly and hence prevent the evil eye - a practice which continues till today. To avoid the harsh effects of nazar, well wishers do not praise babies and brides as cute and beautiful, but would rather call them 'ugly' just to prevent the jinx. This practice of calling babies ugly is known to exist even in South East Asia, where there is otherwise no indication of the belief in the evil eye.
Another popular way of warding off the jinx is through amulets. In the Middle-East, nazar refers to the blue-eyed glass amulet, which is today a very popular souvenir for tourists. This blue ornament is a common sight there, being seen outside houses, shops, cars, and also hung on clothes or as jewellery.
A major cultural difference brought about by the belief of nazar is that of flaunting or showing off. People who believe in the jinx would not boast about their good luck to others for fear of invoking the evil eye. In countries where nazar is non-existent, people do not hesitate to flaunt their beauty, wealth or good fortunes.
Anyway, my supposed brush with the nazar did not end with my excess hairfall during college, for I have had several other encounters since. These include the time when my colleague, who is often inflicted with cold, asked me how I managed to always stay healthy; and the next couple of weeks later, I fell quite sick with my worst flu in a decade. Or how all my cakes have turned disastrous ever since someone complimented on my signature carrot cake.
My main intellectual concern in this regard has been whether this evil eye really exists, and if so, what causes it and why it seems to affect some people and not all; and lastly, how we can prevent it. A logical person would not believe in it at all, relegating it as mere superstition; but having had a first hand experience, I am disinclined to dismiss it as such.
I often feel that bad karma may play a large part in ensuring that it does not afflict everyone, but only those with heavy karmic debts to pay. However, my focus often falls on the possibility of the supposed victim's subconscious playing the main role here. The subconscious or the soul may perceive the self to be undeserving of the good fortune to be blessed with that which the conferrer of the nazar lacks. And as a means to balance out or cancel off the good fortune, the subconscious inflicts a punishment to the self that manifests as nazar, jinx or evil eye.